Welcome to Talking Heart to Heart!

I created this website to provide support for adoptive parents, like myself, who are raising adopted teens or young adults. It is a safe place to ask questions, express feelings, provide information, celebrate successes, and learn from one another. I encourage you to explore the resources, share your story, and know that you are part of a community that doesn't judge, but only provides support! This community values respect above all else. I invite you to share your opinions in a respectful way and join in meaningful discussions.

Copper Hills Interview

The following post includes written responses from the staff of Copper Hills to questions pertaining to their treatment program. If you would like more information about Copper Hills, you can check out their website at www.copperhillsyouthcenter.com. Or you can call 80 776-7116. Q: What is your total capacity? A: We have capacity for 165 students. Q: Grade/Age Levels? A: We serve students aged 12 through the 17th year. Because we serve students...

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THREE POINTS CENTER: First Residential Treatment Center for Adopted Adolescents

I had the pleasure of interviewing Dr. Norm Thiebault, LMFT, Executive Director of Three Points Center, the first and only residential treatment center that focuses solely on the needs of adopted adolescents and their families. For more information go to the website, www.threepointscenter.com. Why did you decide to open a treatment center for adopted teens? Early in my career in residential treatment, I found that I was working with an...

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Dore E. Frances Educational/Therapeutic Consultant

I recently had the pleasure of interviewing Dore E. Frances, Ph.D. Educational/Therapeutic Consultant and Founder of Horizon Family Solutions, LLC. Her doctorate is in Human Development with an emphasis in Diverse Families. If you are interested in learning more about Dore, please visit her website www.horizonfamilysolutions.com, or call (303) 448-8803. How did you decide to become a consultant? I actually consider myself an advocate first and...

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Korean Adoptee Speaks Out

This article appeared in the March 2015 edition of Adoptive Families. “Did You Ever Mind it?” On Race and Adoption by Nicole Soojung Callahan.  It is a poignant reminder of how a young child copes with the discomfort of being singled out and called names simply because she looked different from her white parents. Here’s an excerpt from the article. ” My parents and I always turned heads when we left the haven of our...

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Lecture on Adoption by Paul Sutherland

In this fascinating lecture Paul Sutherland equates early relinquishment of the infant from the birth mother as a developmental post -traumatic stress disorder.  Unlike most traumas this type of developmental disorder has no pre-trauma personality. For instance in the case of an accident, or the experience of a Veteran in combat, the person recognizes they have experienced a significant change in personality before and after the traumatic...

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“New Study Examines the Effect of ‘Open’ Adoption on Families”

“Adopted children who are satisfied with how much they can communicate with their birth parents do better, according to new research out Monday from the University of Massachusetts that identifies the benefits of “open” adoptions. Dr. Harold Grotevant, Rudd Family Foundation Chair at the University of Massachusetts, Amherst, says the data debunk the theory that open adoptions confuse children.” See full article...

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Solving the Mystery of Parenting Teens

I am pleased to announce the start of a new support group. The group is a place for parents to learn about kind and and firm parenting. It offers guidance and support to parents in a safe, confidential setting. Parents will develop a greater appreciation for themselves and their teens. Participants will practice joint problem solving for effective solutions to family conflicts. Ask yourself these questions to determine if this group may be...

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New Women’s Group – Chasing our Dreams

Chasing Our Dreams  Do you dream of living a life filled with inspiration, creativity, and purpose? If you can answer yet to any of the following questions, then this group will definitely benefit you: Are you at a crossroad? Not sure of the path ahead? Experiencing a major life transition? Wanting to live more passionately? Women haven’t had an easy time chasing our dreams. We find it difficult to live within the socially prescribed role of...

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Why a Generation of Adoptees is Returning to South Korea

From The New York Times: Why a Generation of Adoptees Is Returning to South Korea. This movement is raising soul-searching questions about international adoption. “Laura Klunder’s newest tattoo runs down the inside of her left forearm and reads “K85-160,” a number that dates to her infancy. Klunder was 9 months old when her South Korean mother left her at a police station in Seoul. The police brought her to Holt Children’s...

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An Adoptee’s Lifelong Struggle to Claim a world of her own

“At 4 months old, I was flown from my orphanage in India to my adoptive parents in Groton, Mass. I would never say I didn’t have a good childhood — I did. My life was enviable in too many ways to mention. But what’s also true is that adoption is a traumatic, lifelong experience that is rarely recognized as one. Unfortunately, there is no way to convince a non-adoptee that adoption is hard and that its effects continue into adulthood...

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